I Was the Daughter and Partner of a Porn Addict
I Was the Daughter and Partner of a Porn Addict Anonymous “If your partner or child tells you that your use of porn is causing them harm, it might be harmful for you too.” People with substance use disorder are increasingly recovering out loud, but when it comes to...
The Power in Healthy Boundaries with Darlene Lancer
The Power in Healthy Boundaries | Mental Health Monday With Darlene Lancer Originally Aired on Monday, November 21, 2022 @ 11:00 am PST The Power in Healthy Boundaries Healthy boundaries are a critical tool in our recovery toolbox. If we are to succeed in overcoming...
Unlocking the Mystery of Why We Do What We Do in Relationships with Rosemary O’Connor
Unlocking the Mystery of Why We Do What We in Relationships | Mental Health Monday With Rosemary O’Connor Monday, September 12, 2022 @ 11:00 am PST Releasing the Chains that Bind You: Unlocking the Mystery of Why We Do What We in Relationships with Rosemary...
The Superpower of Codependency
The Superpower of Codependency By Lisa Wall, Director of Community Engagement & Online Programs | SHE RECOVERS® Foundation Recovery gave me the opportunity to focus on my strengths instead of my defects. It helped me to identify and nurture the more balanced and...
UnAddicted to You: Loving through the Darkness with Etel Leit
UnAddicted to You: Loving through the Darkness | Mental Health Monday With Etel Leit Originally Aired on Monday, June 27, 2022 @ 11:00 am PST UnAddicted to You: Loving through the Darkness with Etel Leit Addiction doesn’t just impact the person struggling with...
Codependency: Why Others Are Sometimes So Much More Important Than Ourselves with Beverly Conyers
Codependency: Why Others Are Sometimes So Much More Important Than Ourselves | Mental Health Monday With Beverly Conyers Originally Aired on Monday, June 6, 2022 @ 11:00 am PST Codependency: Why Others Are Sometimes So Much More Important Than Ourselves With Hazelden...
If You Leave Me, Can I Come With You? With Misti B
If You Leave Me, Can I Come With You? | Mental Health Monday With Misti B Monday, March 21, 2022 @ 11:00 am PST If You Leave Me, Can I Come With You? with Misti B “If You Leave Me, Can I Come with You?” is the rally cry, the anthem, the reason-to-be for codependents...
Sex in Recovery with Dufflyn Lammers
Sex in Recovery | Mental Health Monday With Dufflyn Lammers Monday, February 14, 2022 @ 11:00 am PST Sex in Recovery with Dufflyn Lammers In this Valentine’s Day session, relationship coach Dufflyn Lammers will cover all things sex in recovery! She will answer the...
My Resentment Gems
When she was three years old, my friend Christina refused to hug her grandfather. From that moment on, she was known in her family as someone who did not like hugs. She does not have a memory of this moment. It is a story she was told, and retold about herself, many...
Forgiveness: The Journey Home
We are so excited to share this guest post by Ester Nicholson. Ester is a recovery coach, author, speaker and recording artist. You can find more about her and her work at her website, esternicholson.com. You can also listen to this post, and the beautiful prayer she...
Loving Each Other All The Way Through
You can listen to this blog here: This story has a happy ending. I need to tell you that here at the top of the page, because things will happen in the paragraphs below that will make you doubt the ending. I don’t care for tension, so I am taking it out here for both...
We Are All Single Mothers
“There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.” – Desmond Tutu When my boys still wore diapers and could not eat grapes safely, we moved to a small seaside town in Italy....
Moving Beyond Botox and Religion
My 200-year present I recently heard a theory about how we each live in a 200-year span of history. You mark the beginning of your span, your “200-year present,” by thinking of the oldest person who could have held you as a baby (my great grandmother, born in 1900)....
The Ultimate Act of Self Care
“Your birth altered my whole posture on this planet … because of you, I couldn’t die and couldn’t monster myself, either. So you were the agent of my rescue – not a job for somebody barely three feet tall.” –– Mary Karr writing about her son in Lit: A Memoir Last...
The Ideal Mother is a Terrible Parent
The fallacy of the ideal mother I was a reluctant mother. Unless they are just bathed, dressed in clean pajamas and holding their own warm bottle in their tiny hands, I don’t like babies very much. Before I had my two sons, I would see moms in the Walmart with their...
When Your Mother Dies
My mom was only 68 years old when she died from leukemia on April 27, 2000. Most days it feels like forever since we lost her, but I still wake up once in a blue while (her saying, not sure where it came from) and forget that she is gone. And it hurts so hard. I...
Three Doors. It’s Your Choice.
Show me a woman in her late 30s/40s, whose life partnership is at least a decade old and whose kid(s) is out of diapers, and I’ll show you a woman who is about to say, “Wait. What?” to her life. This woman has done life mostly by the rules. She did both what was...
Our True Power: The Tool That Saves Us and Our Families
For the past few weeks I have been consumed by negative thoughts about the world and worries about my family. Life’s headlines – both inside and outside of my house – have had me holding my breath, waiting (almost wishing) for “the other shoe” to drop. My son is...
The Third Thing You Need: Other People
“To succeed, most people need a community of support.” – Cheryl Strayed Many of us are working on our recovery alone or piecing it together from various programs, therapies and online resources. These tools are powerful, but they do not replace the need for actual...
It Takes What It Takes
The truth pattern of recovery: Clarity. Rock Bottom. Acceptance. Gratitude. Lately I have developed a healthy fear of answers. Answers seem to have too much rigidity around them. Black and White. You’re Wrong, I’m Right. Answers tend to turn ugly, quickly. I much...
Relationships change when you do. It’s scary. And worthwhile. (I think.)
“Relationships change.” My father-in-law’s new wife gifted me with this life truth a few months after she married into our family. I had just honestly and gently shared with her that my husband, her new son-in-law, and his brothers were feeling abandoned by their...
Letting Good Things Happen
You do not have to spend too much time in recovery before the Good Things come. Refugees from a foreign land, they arrive slowly. Just one tiny, quiet Good Thing at first. Then, because word gets out that you are accepting Good Things, others follow. Faster. Bigger....
The Real Reason You Need it to Be Perfect
Guest Blog Post by Caroline McGraw Oh honey, I know what you’re like. You are a driven, high-achieving woman trying so very hard to be perfect. You have a staggering helping of responsibilities on your plate. You’re the conscientious planner, the purposeful...
Guest Post by Rosemary O’Connor: The Shocking Truth About Supermom
The baby is crying, the dog is barking, your husband is snoring, and you look over at the clock and realize you went to bed just five hours ago. You grab the baby; let the dog out, and sleepwalk to the coffee pot. The dishes from the night before are still piled high...
Guest Blog Post by Veronica Valli: Whatever the Question? Balance is Always the Answer
No matter how far down the road to recovery I go, I find myself from time to time, in a hole. Or, I notice that I am acting out in behaviors that are unhelpful to me. When these things become apparent to me I nearly always discover it’s because my balance is...
Celebrating A Marriage in Recovery (25 Years and Counting)
Today is my 25th wedding anniversary. Just writing that blows my mind. About 27 years ago I walked into a marathon meeting at a 12 step convention being held for recovering addicts in Edmonton, Alberta (Canada) and a male voice from the corner of the room said...
Guest Blog Post by Jen Matesa: Sex in Recovery
I’m going to tell you a story that, in all the years I’ve been writing about addiction and recovery, I’ve never published anywhere. It’s the backstory to my new book, Sex in Recovery. Two or three years into sobriety, it became impossible for me to take my clothes...
