GUIDELINES & AGREEMENTS

SHE RECOVERS® Together Online Zoom Gatherings are informed by the SHE RECOVERS Intentions & Guiding Principles. They are hour-long, topic-focused, trauma-informed, and voluntarily facilitated by Professional SHE RECOVERS Coaches who meet you right where you are. A free authenticated zoom account is required to attend.

We welcome women and non-binary individuals who identify with women’s communities – who are in or seeking recovery – into this space. We also welcome all races, sexual orientations, and all those differences of life situations, backgrounds, and abilities.

These gatherings are facilitated by trained volunteers. They do not constitute a therapeutic or coaching relationship and are not a replacement for trauma therapy, addiction treatment, psychiatric, or medical care.

If you are seeking treatment or professional recovery support please visit our online directory of trusted resources.

By participating in these gatherings, you agree to adhere to these Gathering Agreements and to co-create a welcoming and supportive environment built on mutual respect for all participants, volunteers, and facilitators. SHE RECOVERS Foundation space-holders reserve the right to remove any individual who appears to be violating the group guidelines and terms of use set out by SRF.

 

 

 

About the Foundation

The SHE RECOVERS Foundation is a 501(c)(3) non-profit public charity. We connect, support and empower women through our virtual platforms and in-person community networks. If you are finding these gatherings supportive of your recovery, please consider making a donation.

We are all recovering from something.

We may be in recovery from one or more of the following:

  • Substance use disorders (including alcohol use disorder and opioid use disorder)
  • Trauma (including childhood, intergenerational, racial, religious, and gender-based trauma)
  • Codependency
  • Anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues
  • Eating disorders and other food related issues
  • Grief and loss (including divorce or job loss)
  • Burnout or moral injury
  • Workaholism
  • Love or sex addiction
  • Shopping addiction
  • Sexual, emotional or physical abuse
  • Cancer or other illness
  • Any other life issue from which we hope to heal

Gathering Agreements

In an effort to co-create a welcoming and supportive environment we ask all gathering participants to adhere to the following:

Familiarize Yourself With Our Intentions & Guiding Principles

Respect

  • Co-create a welcoming and supportive environment built on mutual respect for all participants, volunteers, and facilitators
  • Hate speech, racism, homophobia, transphobia, verbal abuse, derogatory remarks, bullying, harassment, name-calling, or insulting comments made towards anyone including but not limited to SHE RECOVERS participants, volunteers, staff, contractors, or partners will not be tolerated

If you are experiencing crisis or distress

Protect each other’s privacy:

  • Find a private space to join in from
  • Don’t discuss other individuals’ presence outside of the gathering
  • Refrain from taking any pictures, screenshots, or saving chat transcripts

Contribute Instead of Criticize

  • Support all pathways and patchworks of recovery and criticize none
  • Keep shares recovery-focused and speak from a place of personal experience

  • Don’t critique others’ shares

IMPACT VS INTENTION

  • We recognize that our words and actions may not always have the impact we intended
  • Participants are encouraged to adopt a spirit of “rupture and repair” when navigating conflicts and disagreements
  • SRF is not responsible for the actions of its participants
  • If you are experiencing something you feel requires action from the Foundation please report it to the co-host, guardian, or coach facilitator via private message
    Some examples that may require action from SRF include non-inclusive behavior, verbal abuse, members who are sharing under the influence, and any other violations of our group agreements.

Tend to your energy

  • We encourage you to exercise your personal agency by sharing, watching, and listening to only that which you are comfortable with
  • If you need to mute a share or leave, we understand and ask that you reach out for additional support from a member of your personal recovery support team

When sharing, please identify yourself by:

  • Stating your first name or preferred nickname
  • Share your pronouns ( she/her or they/them – if you wish)
  • Tell us where you are in the world
  • If you’d like, tell us what you are in recovery from, i.e Hi, my name is Vasalisa and I am from Saturna Island, BC. My pronouns are she/her and I am recovering from codependency, workaholism, and trauma.
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AVOID SHARING EXPLICIT DETAILS

  • When speaking about triggering topics such as sexual or physical abuse, violence, suicide, death, self-injurious behavior, and/or alcohol and drug use
  • Refrain from promoting weight loss, cleansing, fasting, “clean” eating and/or the use of addictive substances to cope with life stressors

Limit your share to 3 minutes

This allows us to hear from as many people as possible within the hour. It also helps to create a supportive container for sharing. The facilitator will use a timer to gently indicate when your time is up. We honor your share and your part in making space for the next participant.

Turn off your video

If you are using substances, eating, preparing food, or smoking/vaping

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Refrain from sharing and chatting if

  • You are under the influence of alcohol, drugs, or other substances causing impairment
  • Are driving or operating a vehicle

Take space / make space

We invite those who feel no edges when it comes to sharing in a group to take a sacred pause before raising your hand in an effort to make space for those who may struggle to do so.

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CONSIDER YOUR CHAT ETIQUETTE

  • You are invited to use the chat to support one another
  • Set an intention to be present with those who are sharing
  • Obtain consent before sending private messages to other participants
  • If your chat remarks are taking you or others out of the present moment, connect outside of the gathering instead
  • Don’t use the chat as a place to criticize or provide feedback to the volunteer facilitators or space holders
  • You are welcome to close the chat if you find it distracting

 

Language matters

  • Intend to use inclusive greetings whenever possible. A simple shift in language from saying “Hey Ladies” to “Hey Y’all” can create a deep impact when co-creating welcoming and supportive spaces for everyone
  • Help us smash the stigma often associated with mental health. Instead of saying “that’s crazy” or “It’s totally insane” when describing intense /overwhelming/exceptional situations, feelings, & experiences consider instead saying things like bananas, intense, crunchy, unusual, surprising, life-altering, significant, ridiculous, absurd, or incredible

We understand inclusive language may be a new concept for folks. We encourage a spirit of “embracing imperfection” when it comes to using inclusive language. We all make mistakes and are here to learn.

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NO SELF PROMOTION

  • These gatherings and all SRF platforms are not spaces for participants to promote personal work or businesses This includes links to a website, blog, podcast, video, or other resources leading to offers of service. We appreciate your work in the world however, these spaces must remain primarily about support
  • SHE RECOVERS Coaches are permitted to self-promote in exchange for their volunteer service within the Gatherings

Sharing

You are not required to share, and you will not be called upon to share. Being present, listening, and holding space is just as meaningful as sharing.

If you would like to share, please raise your hand electronically. To do that you can:

1. Raise hand’ is found in the ‘Reactions’ button at the bottom right screen

2. ‘If you encounter technical issues you may use the chat to communicate with the co-host to troubleshoot
3. The SHE RECOVERS Coach will call upon you when it is your turn to share

4. You will be unmuted and remuted by the co-host

WELCOME TO NEW PARTICIPANTS

We understand it might take a few meetings (or more) before you feel comfortable enough to share in a SHE RECOVERS Together Gathering. We welcome you to introduce yourself in the chat so we can welcome you. If you have any questions about this Gathering, or SHE RECOVERS more broadly, please don’t hesitate to post them in the chat during the gathering. A Guardian or Co-host will do their best to respond.

CULTIVATING A WELCOMING & SUPPORTIVE ENVIRONMENT

SHE RECOVERS Together Online Gatherings are facilitated by volunteer SHE RECOVERS Coaches and supported by volunteer co-hosts and guardians from the SHE RECOVERS Community.

The Co-hosts and Guardians are here to:

1. Monitor the waiting room and permit participants to enter
2. Mute and unmute participants
3. Lower hands after share is complete

4. Monitor and respond to the chat
5. Scan the room for unwelcomed participants and remove them if necessary

6. Welcome new women to the gathering through the chat
7. Offer zoom technical support

The SHE RECOVERS Coaches are here to:

1. Introduce themselves, their coaching practice, and/or an offering they may have created to provide holistic support for recovering women

 

2. Present the topic of the gathering and model strengths based sharing
3. Call on participants with their hands raised to share

4. Hold a trauma-informed and supportive space for participants to speak. They may offer a comment or share reflections when the participant’s share is complete.

If you are experiencing crisis or distress

Please reach out to one of the crisis support lines or therapeutic resources listed below

GENERAL CRISIS LINES

SAMHSA National Helpline

For individuals & families facing mental health and/or substance use disorders

1-800-662-HELP (4357)

Crisis Text Line

Contact a live, trained crisis counselor via text

North America text 741741 

UK text 85258

National Suicide Prevention Hotline

USA 1-800-273-8244 

Canada 1-833-456-4566 or text 45645

BLACK, INDIGENOUS & WOMEN OF COLOR CRISIS & SUPPORT LINES

Crisis Line for Racial Equity Support

503.575.3764 (not 24/7)

LGBTQ+ CRISIS & SUPPORT LINES

LGBTQ Thrive Mental Health Crisis Support

text “THRIVE” to begin your conversation

1.313.662.8209

LGBT National Health Center 

http://www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org/

1-888-843-4564 (not 24/7)

Trans LifeLine 

Provides trans peer support for the trans community
https://translifeline.org/

Canada (877) 330-6366

US (877) 565-8860

THERAPEUTIC RESOURCES

BetterHelp Online Therapy: betterhelp.com/srf (includes a 35% discount)

SHE RECOVERS trusted resources: sherecovers.org/trusted-resources/

About the Zoom Platform

View modes

  • There are two view modes in Zoom – Speaker and Gallery View
  • The “View mode” button is in the top right of the window
  • Speaker View only shows you who is actively speaking
  • Gallery View shows a display where all users are visible at once. You can still see who is sharing because they are surrounded by a yellow box.

Participants list

  • The button to open the Participants list is at the bottom of the window
  • Shows all who are in the gathering
  • Displays the host and co-hosts

Joining for the first time

We find this video from Marcia Chadly so helpful for first time participants. This video walks you through:

  • Understanding Zoom access information
  • Downloading the free Zoom app
  • Using the access information to join
  • How to turn your video off and on

We’re stronger together.

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